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The True Meaning of Love

After I was diagnosed with Stage 2 Breast Cancer, I knew my life would change.  I had no idea how drastic the changes were going to be.  It was hard because you hear different horror stories, in reality; everyone's body is different so the reaction to chemotherapy and radiation will differ.  I found this out the hard way.  Things that I expected to happen didn't.  They had the opposite effect on me.  My doctors called me "highly sensitive."

Through everything; surgery, chemotherapy and radiation, my husband was there through it all.  It was just him and I on this journey.  He cooked and cleaned, worked and brought me to some of my chemotherapy treatments, all with a supportive attitude.  He has helped me out of bed and helped me walk more times than I can possibly count.  He has been my rock.  On my weak days he listened patiently and held me as I cried.  He always told me I was the strong one.  I drew from my inner strength, but he was a great source of my strength as well.

It was hard because my mom was dying of Breast Cancer as I was going through my treatments.  She passed away January 9, 2012.  She had fought the fight for over 20 years.  That is a long time considering she did not follow her treatment plan at the onset of her diagnosis.  My husband was there through it all, helping hold me up during the toughest part of my life.  That is what true love is.

What I learned from it all is this; you have to be pro-active.  Get your mammograms done and do your self-exams, I found my lump.  It is important to note that through the years since my mom was diagnosed, to when I was, the technology has changed.  More and more doctors are on the same page as far as your treatment plan goes.

Attitude is everything.  Get out of bed when you don't feel like it, even if it's only a little bit.  Your body needs the circulation.  Focus on one positive thing and carry that thought with you throughout the day.  Write in a journal, it helps get all your feelings out.

Cancer patients have such passion for life, and especially for each other.  There is a bond; there are tears, but mostly hugs.  Some are from complete strangers who have fought that same fight.  So, never give up and always lend your support to others.  Loving my life!    Eight months of treatment done, four more months to go.

In my case my love was my husband.  It might be different for you.  It could be a family member, a friend, a new friend, etc.  But one thing is for sure, they will be in your heart forever.  I will make it!  So will you! Never give up the fight!


0 #10 Tami Principe 2012-03-17 20:53
Kristin, thank you so much for reading and posting your comment and your best wishes. Yes, it has been an incredible journey. But there is triumph in the end. Thank you again!
0 #9 Kristen 2012-03-16 21:54
I am sorry to hear about the loss of your mother, but glad to hear that your husband has been such a strong support to you in this difficult time. Best wishes to you in your ongoing journey.
0 #8 Tami Principe 2012-03-16 17:58
Thank you so much for taking the time out to read and post a comment on my blog. Ann, I think you can have tests done to see if you carry the gene for the cancer. Double check with your doctor. Praying for you! My husband has been great. It was hard while he was at work. But I triumphed!
0 #7 Ann 2012-03-16 15:59
This is a hard subject for me, Tami, because of the number of people in my mother's side of the family who had cancer. I get checked, but I feel like a ticking bomb sometimes. You are lucky to have had such good help. I am the caregiver around here and there is no one else. You have my prayers.
0 #6 Tami Principe 2012-03-16 11:38
Thank you so much for taking your time to read and post a comment P. Solanki. I appreciate it very much!
0 #5 P. Solanki 2012-03-16 08:55
I know from personal experience not everyone makes that leap into positive living territory. Well done.
0 #4 Tami Principe 2012-03-15 14:03
Yes indeed Roy! Everyone has inner strength, but we could all use a kite now and then. Love it!
0 #3 Roy A Ackerman PhDEA 2012-03-15 11:37
Great share, Tami.
Glad to hear that your husband was not your anchor but your kite to keep you soaring!
0 #2 Tami Principe 2012-03-15 08:55
Jenny, you are such a strong advocate for Breast Cncer. You have done so much and I love the fact that you add humor to it. Here is the link to our show,
I love your online series to help people get back on their feet. Love all you do to help others with this terrible disease!
0 #1 Jenny L. Saldaña 2012-03-15 08:22
I love this! Having a caring partner is so important. My boyfriend was my caregiver and I can't ever repay him for what he's done. At one of the ACS events they pass our survivors sashes AND caregiver sashes! LOVE THAT!!! This was beautiful. Thank you!

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