For some, the word Breast Cancer is just another word and for others it is a battle. From the moment you feel a lump in your breast or the moment your mammogram results are in question, you feel a strong sense of panic. The words, “Breast Cancer” carries on you like the weight of the world.
Waiting for the results of a biopsy is a very trying time. If Breast Cancer is confirmed, your doctors will devise a treatment plan that best fits your type of cancer. You will have a lot going on with doctor appointments and you will still feel numb. If you are diagnosed, please take someone with you to your doctor appointments. There will be a lot of information given to you so it is best to have another set of ears. At this point, write down important questions that you have for your doctor and don’t be afraid to ask.
One thing about Breast Cancer, you will learn to enjoy your good days. You will have days when you don’t feel good and then you will have days when you feel a lot better, make the most with your time on your feel good days.
One important thing that I learned about was makeup. I never wore much of it before I had Breast Cancer, but I wore it when I had it. I wanted to look my best. My body might have been going through some changes due to the chemicals and medications, but I didn’t want to look it. On the days that I felt good, I wanted to shine and I did. There is an indescribable beauty that one has when all has been stripped down to reveal their soul.
“I don’t want to lose my hair,” this rings true for every man or woman diagnosed with the disease. Why do you think as a society we put such importance on hair? As a society why do we put such importance on the body? I believe in inner beauty and it radiates in everyone. Your hair will grow back, what you don’t want is for your cancer to grow, so get your treatment.
Sometimes people don’t know what to say to someone who has cancer, they question their own mortality. This is normal, so if you’re not sure about what to say, don’t say anything, just listen. Please, please, please do not compare someone you know with cancer to someone else who has cancer! Everyone is different, everyone’s body and body type are different, thir type of Breast Cancer is different, their stage of cancer is different, and their medications and treatments plans are different. A person’s journey with Breast Cancer is their journey, their own personal journey, not anyone else’s.
If you are currently going through treatment and it is rough for you, just remember that you are a fighter and the chemicals and treatments are working together to fight your cancer. Remember the reason you are tired, nauseous, or hurting is because the treatment is working. It is doing its job to kill your cancer.
While on your journey with Breast Cancer you will cross paths with some pretty amazing people; doctors, nurses, fellow cancer fighters/survivors and your neighbors. All of the people that help you along your journey are now in your heart forever.
The world of medicine is always changing. Doctors and hospitals are all onboard with diagnosis and treatment plans. In our world of modern medicine people with Breast Cancer are living longer. We have come such a long way with treatment plans but we still have further to go.
Here are a few helpful tips if you are going through treatment or you know someone who is:
Be mindful, loving, and be willing to just listen. Always ask what they need help with; grocery shopping, laundry, preparing meals, house cleaning, getting children to and from school, etc. Understand that it is a very emotional time, if you add treatments and medications to that you can expect emotions to change frequently. If you are going through treatment, be afraid, others need to realize that you are afraid. Cry and be mad! Remember to enjoy the good days and rest on the bad days. Some people turn to others while others internalize everything while on their journey. Some people may want to be around people while others prefer not to have anyone around. Be there when they shave their head, let them know that it’s going to be ok. You are beautiful with or without hair. Laugh and cry with them.
It is a battle, you are fighting Breast Cancer, you are fighting for your life. Cancer will not win, I will! This is the mentality that you will have during your fight with Breast Cancer.
Reach out to social media during your journey. There are plenty of pages and groups geared toward your particular type of Breast Cancer. The support and knowledge you receive will help you.
Here’s a huge hug from me and a personal note: To my fellow brothers and sisters fighting Breast Cancer, you can and will get through this! I’m sending you all the love that one person can possibly send to another. Stay strong! Be gentle with your mind and body through your journey. Your journey will make you stronger and appreciate life a lot more. You will never take another precious moment for granted again. Much love and support sent to you as you walk your journey with Breast Cancer.