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A Life Changing Event Changes You!

After Hurricane Harvey, I waited to hear if there was going to be any type of counselors on hand for the residents who had lost so much during this disaster.  So, I decided to write this blog in hopes that it might help someone cope with what they are going through.

A devastating event can change your life.  This can happen by witnessing the loss of all of your personal possessions, making it out of a tragic event and witnessing the loss of life.  Just seeing those things can leave deep, emotional scars.  It will affect you.

The powerful force of water is amazing yet very scary.  It is definitely nothing to neither play with nor take lightly.  If you have lost your possessions to a flood, I am here to tell you that it will be alright.  You will grow stronger because of this!  There is no time to cry when you are busy salvaging everything that you possibly can.  You wait for the water to recede so you can go in and access the damage, only to find that mold has spread like wildfire.  It is a double whammy!

It is true what people say, it is only a possession, it can be replaced.  Some things that you hold dear cannot be replaced, mourn the loss of it as best you can. You will feel emotionally overwhelmed; you sit there and think, “My God, all of it is gone.”  Going through this does affect you and it will affect you down the road.  You may not have time to deal with it as you are accessing all of the damage, but it will hit you if you don’t deal with the loss.  If your burdens are too heavy, and you are having a hard time dealing with it, please seek the help of a professional.

There are some who will be fine; there will be some who will go into a depression, there are some who will have good days and bad days.  Everyone copes with things differently.   I think that it is so important to check on friends and neighbors to make sure that they are alright.  Another important thing is to talk about it.  Talk about what you lost.  Many people have lost irreplaceable items that were so precious to them.

The rebuilding is a personal choice.  First, you will have to determine if you still want to live in that same location.  Second, you will have to access how much damage the structure has.  Third, fix it or rebuild, which can you afford to do?  Lastly, how high must I go?  If you have to relocate, there are many factors with that as well.  All of these things are possible.  And they are very rough decisions to make when you are amongst all of the devastation.  There are very important things to consider and I strongly urge you to speak with a FEMA representative and also your local code enforcer.  The hard part is over, you got through it.  Going in and accessing everything that you lost is going to be very hard, but you will get through it too.

The most important thing to remember is that mold can cause so much damage to you physically.  Please do your research and do your best to remove it from everything, for you and all who enter your home.  Wear a mask and gloves.

May compassion and strength guide you!  May others draw from your strength and others feel your compassion.  Through tragedy people will unite.

So, please be patient and kind to each other.  And don’t be so quick to judge!  If the cashier seems a little frazzled or the teller seems a little short or if a friend seems a little distant, just know that they might be remembering that picture of their deeply loved and departed loved one that was floating in the water, or the neighbor down the street who lost their life to this tragedy or they are trying to adjust to the new neighborhood they had to move to.

Each day and each tragedy is a test for mankind, not just to see how much they can endure, but to see how much compassion they have for each other.  When are stripped of everything, you are left with only your soul, your entire being, and that says everything about you; who you are and what you are made of.

Somedays it looks and feels like our world is filled with meanness and hatred until tragedy strikes and all of the angels on earth come together to help each other.  You are in my heart as you rebuild your life.  May love, strength and compassion bring you inner peace during your times of trouble!


0 #2 Tami Principe 2017-09-19 11:07
Thank you so much, Salma! I hope so as well. Thank you for sharing your thoughts.
0 #1 Salma 2017-09-14 16:51
Such a tragedy to experience. Hopefully your words will help those affected.

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