Domestic Violence Part 4: Starting Over
A huge congratulations to you for making it out of that horrific situation! You dug down deep and found your inner strength. Your new life awaits you! You are on your own personal journey to becoming whole again. Here are some tips for you:
Learn from the past. This is the biggest thing. See all the signs that where there that you were truly blinded from seeing and believing.
Don’t beat yourself up. You are human just like everyone else in this world. And there are a whole lot of us who have traveled down your same road.
Get yourself help. There is only one special you in this world. Make yourself whole again. Get you and your children into counseling as soon as you can. It’s a good thing.
Take a deep breath. Think back and remember all the things that you loved doing. Do those things again. Start bringing back the old you. Learn to live and love and laugh again.
Be patient with yourself and the people around you. Rome wasn’t built in one day. Everything is done in moderation. You don’t have to go out every night of the week to try and make up for the lost time.
Things will not be rosy all the time. In fact, you might be struggling to make ends meet. But here’s the difference-you are making it. You are doing it! You’ve had the strength all along. You have no one standing over you controlling you. You and your children can sing and dance to the music without someone else turning it off.
So, get off of your knees, your prayers have been answered. Open up that front door and go in the direction that you want your life to go. Be happy and be safe! And welcome to your new life.
Although you are starting your life over again you must bear in mind that the person you were with is very unstable at this point. You were that person’s sole focus and now you’re gone. You are at risk and you have to keep in mind that you and your family’s safety are vital right now.
Here are some safety tips for you to utilize:
1) Pre-program the police phone number into your home phone and cell phone.
2) Make copies of your order of protection and give them to the police, so all 3 shifts can have it and be aware of it. Also, give a copy to your employer; let them know what’s going on. Carry it with you at all times.
3) Try not to be alone. It is best to always have friends with you.
4) Make it a habit to always look around you. Notice everybody and every vehicle. If you are being followed, go straight to the police station or fire department and call the police.
Again, so many women have walked in your shoes. That is how these things have come to be known. Don’t be another statistic, be safe! Welcome to your new life and I wish you all of the happiness in the world. Be strong, not just for yourself and your family, but also for the women who have been there and for the women who haven’t found the strength to get out.